These Five Things Are Standing In Your Way of Achieving Your Dreams

Darcie Brown
3 min readJul 2, 2020


It’s possible to live the live you dream of.

Many of us have dreams for our lives that we wish would come true. But how many of us actually go after them and achieve them? Frankly, it’s a very small number.

One day, we may think we want something, but then as we get into the pursuit of making it happen, or maybe even before we start, something gets in the way, and we quit.

You may wonder what happened. You thought you were invested in your dream, but then it fell apart.

Here are five things that might be holding you back from achieving your dreams.

You have false ideas about what it takes to achieve your dream.

Dreaming is easy. Anyone can have an idea or a dream, but very few are willing to put in the work to achieve it.

In order to be successful in achieving your dream, you must realize that your path will not be linear and also that you will have to persist and strive, day in and day out, for quite a long time.

Many people are looking for instant gratification, which is why dreaming is pervasive, but fewer people are willing to invest in something and delay gratification until down the road.

You don’t have a clear vision.

The more vague the dream, the harder it will be to achieve. An idea must be fleshed out in order for you to know and understand what steps you need to take.

Inaction often stems from confusion about what needs to happen next, which then leads to stymied behavior and abandonment of dreams.

If you want your dream to come true, you need to define not only the end-goal, clearly and measurably, but also what it’s going to take to get there.

Your dream is not your own.

This might sound strange, but it’s actually more common than you think.

Maybe your father was an attorney, and you decided that you would pursue it too.

But what if that was his dream for you, not your dream for yourself?

Sometimes, we fall into this trap in an effort to please our parents or our spouse, and we end up going down a path that we thought was for us when really it was for someone we care about.

When we don’t choose dreams for ourselves, we often lose steam along the way, as we aren’t truly aligned with them.

You outgrew your dream.

Humans are meant to grow and change, and that means that our dreams may change.

Think back to when you were young — what did you want for your life?

Do you still have those dreams now?

For some, the answer might be yes, but for many others, your dreams have probably changed many times.

In order to ensure that you pursue dreams that you are presently in tune with, you need to check in.

Does this dream still matter to you? Or are you holding on to an old dream that no longer matters to you?

You have negative self-beliefs that hold you back.

We all have self-doubt. That’s part of being human.

But what separates those who achieve their dreams from those who don’t is their willingness to confront, challenge, and overcome their negative self-beliefs.

Here are some examples of negative self-beliefs you may hold:

“I’m not good enough.”

“I’m not smart enough.”

“Someone else probably has or will do it better than I would.”

These beliefs are barriers to success, and, until you address them, they will control your behavior.

Dreams don’t come true on their own. They take work to achieve.

But it’s absolutely possible for you to make your dreams come true, if you commit to tuning in to what matters most to you, do the work to address barriers, and continue moving forward.



Darcie Brown

Writer and Licensed Therapist. Making people feel less alone in their struggles and offering tools for change. To work with her, visit